Trust

You know.. back a while ago people trusted other people.. Children trusted their parents. Friends trusted their friends. Family always thought they could rely on family...

But the truth is the mistrust has always been there... Just hidden... For instance when a child learns that the tooth fairy is not real. They sort of grow out of it.. but sometimes the lies parents and families tell are just unbelievable.. they are just too... logical for kids to even consider they are being lied to. Children even adult ones still get lied to. For instance when an estranged parent tries to convince their child that they want to be involved in their life.. That nothing matters more to them. Then either that parent disappears or you get to see them maybe once or twice a year.

Nothing in this world is more aggravating to a child to find out that not only has been lied to all his/her life but the truth is all that much more painful. The child was not wanted in the first place.. Thats fine and dandy to start off with... but to have the salt to the wound of the parent insisting to want to be in that childs life then leaving once more...

I want my daughter to trust me and to trust people around her and to know that she can trust those people... who she should trust. her friends.. her family.. people who want to be there to protect her. I don't want my daughter to grow up to be one of those snooty mistrusting cynical kids out there.

And i know that its the same with any mother to any child out there.. well I guess not any mother.. cause yes there are women out there who have deserted and abandoned their children. and some aren't as ready to be mothers as some men aren't ready to be fathers.. which that parent might not ever grow out of..

I think being a mother to me is loving your child unconditionally, being there for that child no matter the consequences or whether they are right or wrong. I am not talking coddling just being there.. Not saying not to punish.. cause yes if something wrong has happened there should always be a punishment.. but the child should always know that even though they are being punished they are still loved.

Now a days there are mothers who freak out if their child gets dirty or hurt. back when we were kids most of us were told to walk it off.. and how many of us at one point or another got sprayed down with a hose... Skin is there for a reason. To help protect.. if your child is kept sanitized... they will become sick more often due to lack of immunities. but there is a limit to how dirty a child should be. But never underestimate the power of a good hosing. ;)